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Attachment style quiz

Why do you love the way you do?

16 questions about closeness, texting, trust and needing space. Find out where you land on the attachment map, with jokes that hit a little close to home.

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56%of adults described themselves as secure in the classic 1987 love study
25%described themselves as avoidant
19%described themselves as anxious

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What is Attachment Check?

Attachment Check is a free attachment style quiz for adults. It measures two things researchers use to describe adult attachment: anxiety (fear of rejection) and avoidance (discomfort with closeness).

Where you fall on those two scales places you in one of four styles: secure, anxious, avoidant or fearful-avoidant.

How to use the test

  1. Pick your vibe. The tone changes the jokes, never the result.
  2. Answer 8 questions about closeness and trust. Think about close relationships in general.
  3. Answer 8 about space and reassurance. Go with your gut, not how you wish you reacted.
  4. See your style on the map, then share it. It's more fun when a partner or friend takes it too.

What the questions look at

Anxiety

Fear of rejection and need for reassurance

Avoidance

Discomfort with closeness and depending on others

Secure

Low on both: comfortable with intimacy and independence

Fearful-avoidant

High on both: wanting closeness and fearing it

How we score it

Each question feeds one of two scores, anxiety or avoidance, from 0 to 100%. Some statements count when you agree and some when you disagree. Scores of 50% or more count as high. Low on both is secure, high anxiety only is anxious, high avoidance only is avoidant, and high on both is fearful-avoidant.

The two-dimension model comes from adult attachment research, and the questions are original to this site. They have not been validated in a clinical study, so treat your result as a starting point for reflection.

Frequently asked questions

Can my attachment style change?

Yes. Research describes 'earned security': people becoming more secure through supportive relationships, therapy, and self-awareness.

What's the most common attachment style?

Secure. In the classic 1987 study by Hazan and Shaver, about 56% of adults described themselves as secure.

What is the anxious-avoidant trap?

It's a common pattern where an anxious partner pursues closeness and an avoidant partner pulls away, which makes each of them do more of the same.

Is fearful-avoidant the same as disorganized?

They're closely related. 'Disorganized' is the term used in research on children; 'fearful-avoidant' is used for adults.

Do you save my answers?

No. Everything runs in your browser. Nothing you answer is sent to us or anyone else.

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Sources

  • Hazan & Shaver, Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 1987: about 56% secure, 25% avoidant, 19% anxious.
  • Brennan, Clark & Shaver, 1998: the anxiety and avoidance dimensions of adult attachment.